What is healing?
Intuitive healer and therapist, Katarina Winslow asks: What is healing?
Published in togethermag.eu March 2020 #106 I remember about ten years ago, when my healing gift began to get acknowledged, people said that maybe I shouldn’t use the word ‘healing’ – people will be scared off. It was well-intentioned; they wanted more people to understand how I could help and guide them.
I was a bit reluctant to take people’s advice, but I like to believe that I still listened and was moderate in using this, for some reason, negatively charged word ‘healing’. It is a paradox that we live in a world where a word that stands for the process of making or becoming sound and healthy again is alienating and shameful. Today, I am grateful that the word healing has become accepted by the establishment and even trendy to talk about. Thanks to the healing gift I was given, I did not only meet resistance, but I also had some time to reflect over what healing actually is. And the words that came to me to sum up what healing is can be expressed in its purest form as: “Healing is the cleansing of the illusion that you are anything but love.” Last spring, I spoke at a big consciousness gathering in Caen, France, at the eDays (Evolution Days), and, just before the opening of the doors, a woman asked me: “What is healing, actually?” There and then, I had to think again and to squeeze the essence out of what healing really is. Wayne W. Dyer said: “When you squeeze an orange, you’ll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what’s inside. The same logic applies to you: when someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or anxiety – that is what’s inside. If love and joy are what you want to give and receive, change your life by changing what’s inside.” With this in mind, you could say that if healing had happened to you, when you squeeze yourself what would come out would be ‘the truth’. The most absolute and most beautiful truth of You. That is, when you have healed yourself the one thing still standing is love, because it is the truth of who you are. You are love at the core of your being, no matter how many wounded layers you are walking around with in life: anger, bitterness, fear, emotional and physical pain, depression, sadness and remorse. Behind it all, there is the most beautiful part of you: love. You just need to heal from the thorns of life to be able to reconnect with your authentic nature, and that is what healing is. Healing is to remember who you truly are and let go of the pain you carry so that you can be free of any imposed way of being, any false belief of self. Things such as ‘I am not good enough’, ‘I am not intelligent enough’, ‘I am not beautiful enough’, or ‘I am not good at anything’. The list of what kind of false beliefs we can collect is endless, due to our parents, partners, teachers, friends, society and even colleagues. We are all wounded and coloured by the painful experiences we have suffered – healing is to let go of the little ‘black box’ of pain in our subconsciousness. Open it up and look at the truth of your pain, the truth about yourself, the truth of your family, the truth about your negative psychological patterns that are making life less than it could and should be. Healing is to open yourself to the fact that life is beautiful, and so are you. To sum it up, when you strip off all the negative illusions that you have about life and yourself, you are left with the truth, however painful the truth might be, for example, if you have been subjected to deceit, betrayal, abuse or violence. Behind it all, there is still the truth of you as pure love, and when you know that truth, you also know that in reconnecting with the truth of you, you no longer want to carry your pain and your burdens. In loving yourself, you make the inflicted layers of pain fall to the ground as you rise from the ashes as a pure being of unconditional love. The kind of unconditional love that Mother Earth has for all, feeding us and loving us, no matter what.
Another way to picture healing is to search for and eventually arrive at the truth. The truth of who you are. That is why my intuition tells me that, later on in history, we will speak about this period as the ‘Truth Age’, just as we used to talk of the ‘Stone Age’. The world needs healing, and for that to happen, we need to stop looking at the effects and dig down to the roots of the chaos we have created. What is behind what we see? Who has planted the seeds of separation and conflict? Whose interests are served? We will only solve climate change and other conflicts by digging out the most poisonous roots and thereby getting to the truth. That is, of course, not an easy task and not a one-man job.
We all need to dig in, and in no matter what sector we are asking more questions about truth. Is this good, moral, serving life or beneficial to humanity and the planet? Another important question that we can all ask is: ‘Is this a quick fix or a sustainable solution?’ If the answer is that it is just a quick fix, there is a need to rethink it. Quick fixes are like not finding out the truth about yourself and who you are, but instead closing your eyes. Maybe you go on another shopping spree in the mall, or you swallow a tranquilizer, have a drink, soothe yourself with some cake and sweets, indulge in casual sex, or gamble. The escapes from the truth are many and varied: the truth of who you are. I am not saying that all of this is bad, it is beautiful to make love and it is nice to have a drink, but when it is an escape from your problems and from yourself, suddenly it loses its beauty. For personal healing to happen, for a person to become free of any behaviour, thoughts and feelings that keep you from loving yourself and distance you from loving life, there need to be questions and answers, and this is what healing does. It asks the right questions to find the authentic answers. It sees behind the apparent truth to the absolute truth by going deeper than meets the eye. To help society and the world heal, we need to have the same fearless aim for the truth as we have in any personal healing that sets a person free to be him or herself. Let us all shine a conscious light on clarity and truth this spring. And accept the healing of this world.